Ha! Bet you saw the title and thought I was making some big announcement, hey?
Ok – maybe not. But, just to clarify – I’m not getting married.
Somehow, we got on the topic of Prenuptial Agreements – discussing the pros and cons of having on in place. You can’t forsee the future – so is it a smart thing to have on in place in the unfortunate event of a break up, for whatever reason?
There are two schools of thought on it:
- Having a Prenuptial Agreement is basically saying that you have no faith that the relationship is going to last, and you’re planning it’s demise before it even really starts
- Agreeing to sign one is a good way to show him/her that you’re really not in it for the money. You agree to sign it as a way of saying “I love you for YOU, not for your money.”
Relationships break up for all sorts of reasons. You never enter into a relationship – much less a marriage, expecting it to fall apart. But 5, 10, 15, 20, … years down the road – there really is no forseeing what may or may not happen in the relationship. I think a prenuptial agreement is essential and smart. I think anyone refusing to sign one is just basically saying that the money is a bigger factor for them than they are willing to admit.
I think anyone going into a marriage, who has a substantial amount of capital going into the marriage, would be foolish not to have one in place. I know I, personally, would have to think twice about a guy who refused to sign into one with me – – and, conversely, I would have no problem signing one that he put together.
Maybe that’s just me being jaded? Maybe I’ve had enough (bad?) experiences with relationships in the past to know that there is no way you can predict it’s longevity – no matter how strong your feelings in the beginning.
Shit. Just. Happens.
If you really don’t expect the relationship to end – – why not sign it?