This is just a quickie…I don’t have a lot of time but wanted to share. Today, for me, has truly been a day of complete hell. I apologize for being sparse with the details… just believe me when I say it.
My lingering thought for today, and the running theme throughout my life for the past several months is love. Love of the unconditional kind.
To love, unconditionally, means to love – no matter what. The person receiving your unconditional love should have no doubts about your love.. and along with it the very strong reliance that you will be there for them… no matter what.
No matter what.
You can say that you love someone unconditionally. It’s so easy to say. But when it is put to the test.. you never really know. When things go wrong – – you find out, right quick.. and to have that unconditional love put to the test and verified.. well, its kind of empowering.
That does not mean you do not have an opinion or a judgment on their decisions, their actions or choices in their life. But you recognize the person as a complete individual and free human being – and you love them, no matter what. You try to support them. Help them. Talk to them. And always.. always keep the door open. They are always free to sit down at your table and know that you are there, that you love them and you will always, always try to help, support and guide them. No matter what they’ve done, how they’ve done it or how old they get.
Being a parent has taught me that much. I did not know what it was to love, unconditionally, until I had children. More pointedly, as my children become young adults, that love is constantly being put to the test. As a parent, you need to give them the freedoms to make their own mistakes and rather than being there to say “See, I TOLD you so!“… you are there with your arms open to say “I know, honey – it’s hard. Sit down, let me make you some coffee and we can talk about what’s next, ok?”
You don’t enable their behavior – – you acknowledge their mistakes when they are wrong, and their successes when they get things right. You offer advice and guidance – – more importantly, you offer them an open ear and an open heart… and you listen.
It must be an incredibly comforting feeling to know that there is someone in your life who you can turn to – – no matter what happens along the way…and awfully lonely if you don’t.
As hard and heartbreaking as it absolutely can be – – I truly treasure being that person for someone I love.
That’s all. I hope you are having a nice Thursday – – send over some good karma, if you can.