Now that it’s officially 2007 and I have settled into the new year after short vacation, reflecting on the past year is nary something I have time for, at the moment – but it is important to reflect on the past in order to apply experiences and lessons learned in the future. Important things I learned and came to terms with in 2006:
1. It’s impossible to make everyone happy every single time, no matter how hard you try. This includes family, friends, clients, coworkers and strangers on the street. Just try and be the best at what you do – – whatever it is you’re doing, and come to terms with the best you can do for any given moment is all you have to give. You may improve your talents, efforts and methods in the future, but for right now …”this very minute, of this very day – I am giving you my absolute best.”
2. There are only 24 hours in any day of the year. Trying to squeeze more time out of a day is utterly impossible. Instead, try to organize and prioritize better. It won’t give you more hours – – but it will allow you to make the most of the hours you have.
3. Talent does not always equal ability. Someone may be extremely talented at a given task, however they may lack the ability to successfully manage all of the elements required for a project. I shall try not to assume that a talented person is a capable person.
4. Misplaced trust is always a shock to me. I don’t know why it should be – but it is. Even when you think you can trust someone – – you just never really know until the day that they do something that completely and utterly undermines that trust.. leaving you sitting there shaking your head in wonder.. “how could I have..” – – don’t make the mistake of thinking it was something you did. Upfront, frank and honest communication is the solution to untrustworthiness. If you make it a personal policy to communicate with the people in your life and let them know exactly where you stand and what your intentions are — there can be no surprises under the hood.
5. On that same note – don’t let the actions of people who have passed through your life dictate how you welcome new ones in. Each person is different and brings with them an individuality that deserves a first chance and does not deserve to be tagged with your historical baggage. Once bitten, twice shy is ok. Proceeding with caution is ok, as well – – just don’t let it rule your life before you close yourself off to some great opportunities with some fantastic people.
6. Marriage rocks. My only advice – make sure you get it right the first time. I didn’t get it right until this time.
7. You can pick your friends, but you can’t pick your family. I didn’t resolve that within myself until 2006. After years of beating my head against the wall – I’ve finally given up and have just accepted the fact that there are just some people in this world that I do not mesh with – – even if it is a member of my family. Life is too short to continue beating on that wall. Time has come to move on and let that water under the bridge flow free.
8. I have not regretted my 2004 resolution to keep my mind open to new opportunities and ideas. I had become too set in my ways over the years – – lifting those limits I placed on myself opened up some great opportunities and experiences I would not have had if I continued to close myself off to new things and new ways. I plan to continue that frame of mind indefinitely.
9. Having teenagers is both a blessing and a curse. The deviousness of your own teenage years will revisit you three-fold, and yet the pride of watching them grow, learn, fall, get back up again is priceless. Seeing yourself in them produces quite a few smiles – witnessing their own individuality will produce even more.
10. I still suffer from flight fright and not sure when I will get over my fear of flying. It doesn’t stop me from flying when I need to – – I just feel sorry for whoever is sitting next to me in flight!
Resolutions for this year? More of the same plus learning how to write a book and run three businesses, all at the same time (see #2 above.)
What were your big lessons learned in ’06? And your resolutions for ’07?