Homesick?

Have you ever gotten homesick? I can’t say that I ever have . . but then, I’m a pretty independant person. Always have been – even as a kid.

My daughter was invited to spend the night at Grandma’s house tonight. Her cousin, Kiley, was also invited. They were all going to hang out and do girlie things all night long. At around 8pm – Kiley got homesick and called her mom because she wanted to go home. And she did.

My daughter called me to tell me this. I asked her if she was homesick, too? She says, “Me? No way – I never am.”

I wasn’t quite sure how to take that. If I should be happy that she’s independant enough to be fine away from home? Or if she never misses home for even a second while she is away?

Ok – so she’s 13 and her cousin Kiley is 9 – – there is an age difference there. But I don’t think my daughter has ever been homesick a day in her life.

Good? Or bad?

I’m really trying not to take this personally.

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12 thoughts on “Homesick?”

  1. Maybe excitement was still flowing through her veins. It’s like that with my kid cousin sometimes. Homesickness usually settles in when playtime has quieted down. Just my two cents. I hope you’re feeling better!

  2. It’s not just independence, it’s also comfortable-ness with Grandma’s house and that’s a good thing! I don’t think homesickness really has anything to do with home and the people who are at home, it’s just anxiety about the place where you are.

  3. I had something similar occur a couple of days ago. My 8 year old who is usually never homesick went to Grandma’s house with her cousin for 2 nights. The first night she was fine I guess, she didn’t say anything to Grandma. The second night she cried for quite a while that she missed Mommy and wanted to come home. (Didn’t happen, the roads were slick)

    Moral of the story, I’ve been feeling horrible that she doesn’t miss me, too. She smiles and says “nope!” when I ask her if she missed me. This one time, she’s bashfully telling me she did miss me as if she failed herself by not making it through the night without missing home.

    Could be that your girl is just like her mom, steadfast, determined and goal oriented. ๐Ÿ™‚

  4. I had something similar occur a couple of days ago. My 8 year old who is usually never homesick went to Grandma’s house with her cousin for 2 nights. The first night she was fine I guess, she didn’t say anything to Grandma. The second night she cried for quite a while that she missed Mommy and wanted to come home. (Didn’t happen, the roads were slick)

    Moral of the story, I’ve been feeling horrible that she doesn’t miss me, too. She smiles and says “nope!” when I ask her if she missed me. This one time, she’s bashfully telling me she did miss me as if she failed herself by not making it through the night without missing home.

    Could be that your girl is just like her mom, steadfast, determined and goal oriented. ๐Ÿ™‚

  5. It is a good thing, I occasionally have bouts of homesickness and it is not a nice feeling, mind you I have been away from home for 5 year, but none the less is great that your daughter doesn’t feel that way. Don’t worry yourself about “she doesn’t miss me” It is not a reflection on the love she has for you much more a reflection of her character.

  6. At 13 she’s not tuned in to the need to word things right. She just says what’s on her mind. She didn’t mean it to hurt your feelings. She just tells it like it is.

    It’s actually a good reflection on you as a parent. What it tells me is that she is secure in the knowledge that you’ll always be there for her, she has a good solid home base to trust in. She’s well adjusted and not afraid to go out on her own.

    Me thinks you’ve done well.

  7. Lisa, I remember when I was young and spending the nights at friends houses on the weekend sometimes and my mom would ask me the same question and (or she’d say somethig like “do you miss me”?) I’d always answer “no” because I figured if I answered yes it was a sign of weakness for someone like me who wanted to look strong. The truth was I did miss her, even though I was enjoying myself.

    Dunno if this is the case with your daughter – you’ve had some good responses in this thread – just wanted to relay my personal experience with the issue. Good luck ๐Ÿ™‚

  8. *sniff* You guys are great! Thank you for the feedback and you’re all right, of course – and I was having a moment of motherly neurosis ๐Ÿ˜‰

    She called me later that evening and told me that she wanted me to sleep with her new teddy bear that she got for christmas – – because she didn’t want him or me getting lonely.

    Awwww.

  9. She probably figured you needed the teddy more than she did after she heard you crying like a baby on the phone. :mrgreen::razz:

  10. That is so adorable Lisa. It sounds like she takes after you and will grow up to be a confident, strong and independent woman herself. And believe me, if she were gone for a month, she would totally be homesick!

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