It’s official – I’m deprived.

No, I did not say depraved – – so knock it off!

For the last week – – sex has been out of the question. Why? It’s my doctor’s fault, completely. Ok – maybe not completely…I suppose there is some action I could take to solve this – but I’m unwilling to, at the moment.

I’m 35 and I have that awful habit of smoking. Yes, yes – I know. I’m a nurse, I should know better, blah blah blah — be that as it may, it’s a habit and it remains unbroken. I accept full responsiblity for this and want it to be known that I am not planning a lawsuit against Phillip Morris.

Chris and I have talked about quitting – but so far, that’s as far as that journey has taken us. Until I actually do quit – – and have stayed nicotine ‘sober’ for at least 6 months, my doctor would not renew my prescription for birth control pills.


I’m 35. He says that the cut off for women who smoke is 35 – he will not, under any circumstances, renew the prescription. He gave me a few alternatives:

  1. Quit smoking – remain smoke free for 6 months
  2. Abstain from sex
  3. Sterilization
  4. Condoms
  5. Diaphragm
  6. IUD

#1 isn’t possible because I can’t wait that long for birth control coverage (though I really should start thinking seriouslly about quitting smoking), #2 is definately NOT an option, #3 isn’t something I want to think about yet, #4 all I have to say is ICK!, #5 is messy and too intrusive upon the romantic moments in life – – which leaves me with #6.

Chris and I talked about #3 – however, we’re not ready to rule out kids completely. He’s 32 – never been married, and has no children, himself – and he hasn’t made the decision that he never wants children – and I want that door to remain open for now, just in case. I explained to my doc that I’m in a serious relationship with a man who I will probably spend the rest of my life with – so we’re not ruling out having children together…..yet.

So, on Thursday I go in for this IUD thing. Since he told me he wouldn’t give me the birth control pills, and until I’m covered – Chris and I are abstaining. While we haven’t ruled out having children – – we know for sure we don’t want them now — goodness no! lol

Well, we’re not completely abstaining….*cough*…there are…ahem…other ways, ya know – – but that’s another entry all together *grin*

So if I seem a little on edge – – there’s a good reason for it lol

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11 thoughts on “Deprived”

  1. You have my sympathies! #5 isn’t just messy, if you do anything other than missionary it hurts!Well, that could just have been the tipped uterus thing but still not anything I’d want to try again.

  2. Send LOTS of chocolate! lol

    I’ve never tried the diaphragm – – I’ve always used pills. Doc wouldn’t let me try the shot, the patch, the impants – – nothing with hormones in it…so my options were limited. Hopefully the IUD will agree with me *crossing fingers*

  3. Doesn’t it occur to him that perhaps the best option for a woman who is smoking may not be to have a child? He’s putting you in situation that seems, well, prone to failure and that failure would not be a good thing.

  4. Actually, James – he gave me the best options I could ask for. Not understanding why you think he’s setting me up for failure? I don’t WANT children…that’s what I’m trying to prevent, in the first place. He gave me the best options available that don’t put me at increased risk for heart disease (meaning – the hormonal birth control methods aren’t really indicated for women who smoke.)

    You’re right – I’m not in a position of having a child. Not because I smoke – – but because I don’t want to have a child.

  5. Bringing this back to life. I confess to having clicked on your “sex” category. Umm, so, wow. How has the IUD worked out for you? And, hey, you guys have about the same age difference … I’m 34 (soon to be 35) and my guy is just turned 32. Huh. Interesting.

  6. Actually, I went to the OB/GYN that my regular doc referred me to and he gave me pills that have no estrogen in them at all, rather they have progestrin. Only drawback is that I have to make sure to take them at the same time every single day, or they won’t be as effective.

    So far, so good – no bambinos! 😀

  7. Huh. And no other bad side effects? What’s the pill called?

    I’ve had a devil of a time with hot flashes and weird, unwarranted anxiety and depression … blah blah blah. (My hormone blog.)

    I just switched Seasonale a couple weeks ago. I’m just curious about everything hormonal. 🙂 At least with Seasonale my interest in sex has returned. Ha!

  8. A little irregularity in my periods for the first couple of months – nothing serious, though.

    The only name on it is the ‘mini-pill’ – progestin. Here’s a link for ya! 🙂

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