You made a difference in my life. I love you.

On July 12 of 2011, my father died. He was the most important person in my life – I now (and will forevermore) define my life as “Before” and “After“.

We had his service 5 days after his death, but we never buried him. He was cremated, per his wishes. His family burial plot is located in Blue Rapids, Kansas and everyone in the family wanted to go down together to hold a burial service to reunite Dad with his mother, father and sister – who are already there. It took some time to coordinate everyone’s schedule, and we finally have. This Saturday on May 5th, Dad will finally be laid to rest with his family. It’s been a long 9 months since his death. I sometimes wish we would have made the trip down to Kansas back then, because it just feels like this has been an open issue and looming for so long – – closure would have been welcome long before now. But, it is important that everyone in the family can attend, though, so the wait was necessary.

We are making the 10 hour drive down on Friday and then back home on Sunday.

Find that person in your life today, and tell them…

You made a difference in my life.

You mean everything to me.

I could not have done it without you.

I love you.

I love you, Dad. I miss you so much.

10 Comments

  1. Abbie

    I’m so glad that you and your family will finally have closure. Beautiful post. Thank you for the reminder to let our loved ones know how much we appreciate them.

  2. Leanne

    Seems you’re on my mind whenever things like this are happening in your life. Stopped by to see how things are going with you – congratulations on your many successes and my heartfelt condolences on your dad’s burial. I know it will be a difficult journey, and you’ll be in my thoughts and prayers.

    And, also, you made a difference in my life. I will always cherish our friendship. Thank you.

  3. Thank you Lisa for sharing your heart and love for your Dad.

    I appreciate how you now define your life as “before” and “after”… and how much you love and miss him. What I hope you understand is that YOU (and all that makes up you) is a reflection to everyone who knows you of your father’s love for you. You carry his love in you everyday. I know… I am a dad of some incredible kids and they shared this with me so now I am fulfilled. :-) I suspect you fulfilled your father in like ways…and this made him very happy indeed!

    -dp

  4. I appreciate how you now define your life as “before” and “after”… and how much you love and miss him. What I hope you understand is that YOU (and all that makes up you) is a reflection to everyone who knows you of your father’s love for you.

  5. oh my god ….. a father’s love will never disappear,,
    You are so lucky to have a very good father …
    hopefully calm his side ..

  6. Kim Gaynor

    Your post and the video affected me deeply. My father died from lung cancer several years ago, and I miss him tremendously. We were not close, but we made peace with each other prior to his death, and I still think about that last visit with him all the time.

  7. i’m so sorry to hear that..
    i really love my parents too, i know what you feel..

    I hope you can hold on because u have so much things left on ur hand to do, and to make ur parents proud, even though they-re not in ur side anymore

  8. Lisa,
    I came here initially because I LOVE your “WordPress Web Design” book, but I was a bit choked up when I saw this page….I lost my father a week before Father’s Day of 2008. I could not comprehend just how much I was going to miss him. I had a pretty bad childhood but towards the end of my father’s life we had begun to really talk to each other as adults. So much was revealed by him on those long phone calls. It changed my whole attitude towards the way I was raised and it changed the things that I both loved and hated about him.
    I only wish that we had started the healing process sooner.

  9. I just came to your website because I recently read your WordPress for Dummies book. They were very helpful. This is such a lovely post. I am sorry for your loss. Thank you for sharing.